10 Keys to Greater Self-Confidence
A healthy dose of self-confidence is one of the most helpful things that anyone can obtain. Low self-confidence leads to poor results, unhappiness, and discontentment, and in the end that will lead to even lower self-confidence.
Confidence is something that must always come from within. You can't rely on other people to boost you up or tell you that you're great, because they won't always do that. So if you want an authentic and lasting form of confidence then you'll need to learn how to create those feelings within yourself.
So how does one gain higher levels of self-confidence? I believe that there are some very simple actions that anyone can take that will lead to greater self-confidence and resilience in life. And when you are able to believe in yourself, no matter what happens, that's when miracles really start to flow.
So let's take a look at what I believe to be the 10 keys to greater self-confidence...
1 - Know Who You Are
If you want greater self-confidence in life then you really need to know exactly who you are. What makes you tick? What do you believe in? What do you stand for? What do you value? What will you accept in your life, and what will you shun? Who do you truly want to be? You need to know all of this about yourself, and more.
Then once you've discovered who you are, you need to question everything. Why do you believe what you believe? Why do you value what you value? These are important questions to answer, because the better you know yourself, the better you can navigate through the ups and downs of life.
Confident people are confident in their beliefs. Confident people are confident in what they value. Confident people don't believe what others tell them to believe; their beliefs are the product of their own conclusions. So if you want confidence, then get confident about who you are. The first step to all great things in life is clarity, and after you've become clear on who you are then you'll need to...
2 - Know Where You're Going
Once you know who you are, then you need to find out where you are going. What does your future look like to you? What is around the corner in your life? What are you working towards? What are your goals? What are your dreams? You need to know what you want out of life, otherwise you'll spend your days letting other people get what they want out of you.
The most successful people in the world are those who know who they are, and what they want to achieve in life. You'll never accomplish anything great if you don't know what that thing is, and once you know where you want to take your life then your self-confidence will skyrocket. Confident people know what they want, and because of this they're better able to make decisions that will take them closer to that goal. So if you want to have better confidence, why wouldn't you have a plan for your life?
3 - Always do Your Best
One thing that never fails to create confidence is the habit of always doing your best. Not only will it make you more confident in your own abilities, but other people will have confidence in you as well, and that will really make you confident!
Not doing your best in any discipline will immediately erode your self-confidence, and you'll start to lose faith in yourself and your ability to head towards your ideal life. Make it a habit to always put 100% into whatever you're working on. If you're at the gym, put in 100%. When you're in a relationship, put in 100%. When you're learning a new skill, put in 100%. Always go the extra mile, and never settle for less than what you know you can be. Life is too short to be small.
4 - Always be Honest
People who have something to hide are always watching over their backs, and they're rarely in a settled state of mind. It's too much work for you to not be honest, so starting today, if you want greater confidence then you'll need to be completely honest.
Be honest with who you are. Be honest about your weaknesses. Be honest about your struggles. Be honest about your strengths. Stop living your life out of fear. Stop living your life based on what other people want you to be. Be yourself, every part, good and bad. Authenticity leads to confidence, because a person who has nothing to hide is a person who has nothing to lose. When you are honest you are free, and no-one can take that away from you, no matter what they say or do.
5 - Look Good
If you want to be confident, dress confident. Dress the way that you want to feel! I know that this is kind of a cliche, but the truth is that sometimes people don't feel good because they don't look good. If you will dress confidently, whether you're going to a meeting or a party, you'll end up feeling more confident. I truly believe that how we dress is absolutely linked to the way that we feel, so try dressing it up from time to time.
6 - Be Prepared
Nothing, to my knowledge, builds greater confidence than becoming prepared. If you've got an important meeting, get prepared. If you have a presentation on the horizon, get prepared. If you know you'll be out of work for a few months, prepare financially.
The great soldier will rarely be fearful in the midst of a battle, because he has spent weeks, months, and years preparing for this very moment. So it is with you, that if you want to live your life with passion and vigor then you need to eliminate your fears by doing all that you can to be prepared for what is coming.
Preparedness creates confidence, because when you know that there's nothing that you could have done to be better prepared for this moment then you can have inner peace and outer effectiveness.
7 - Focus on Growth
Confident people are always growing and becoming better at whatever they're doing. In your career, your relationships, your finances, and your health, you must always focus on growth, which will create an incredible confidence within yourself. If you can look at yourself and honestly say that every day you are getting better, stronger, more highly skilled, more resilient and more prepared, then you'll find that your confidence levels will rise every day.
People who are good at what they do are also confident. People who work on themselves are confident in themselves. Become the kind of person who is always getting better, and you'll no longer need to worry about what other people think of you, because you will be proud of yourself.
8 - Always Keep Your Word
If you want to be confident then you need to always keep your word. When you keep your world you are basically sending a message to the world, and the message is that you are a person of integrity, and a person who can be trusted. People are drawn to men and women of high integrity. Greater opportunities are offered to people of integrity. So look at your life and past: are you a person of integrity? Do you stand by your word? Do you deliver on your promises?
Maybe you don't feel confident because you haven't kept your word, and so you know that there are people who have lost trust in you. If that's the case, I know that as you rebuild that trust by keeping your word, you'll find greater confidence in yourself, and others will have confidence in you.
9 - Be a Giver, Not a Taker
I want you to become a giver, not a taker. Generosity and giving always leads to greater self-confidence. If you can end the day sound in the knowledge that you've done something to help your community, family, friends, or coworkers, then you'll have a great confidence about yourself.
One thing that never fails to erode self-confidence is the feeling that you are not contributing meaningfully to the world, or at least your little slice of it. Confident people are givers, not takers. Confident people focus on adding value, not taking it. Confident people know that they are giving valuable service to others, and so they rest easy with the knowledge that today they made a difference.
10 - Get to Work
Finally, it's time to get to work. The confident person is always executing and working on meaningful tasks that are leading to her ideal future. Action creates confidence, so get on the offense in your life! Take some action, and move forward with purpose. Inactivity will take away every bit of self-confidence that you have and throw it in the trash, unless you get to work. When you spend time working on your goals you're able to come closer to their achievement, and by doing this you are basically creating a confidence machine within your mind.
If you lack self-confidence then I would encourage you to take all of these habits very seriously. They are the key to your greater confidence, and if you will now take this information and act on it, I know that you'll begin the process of developing a long-term confidence in yourself. You'll no longer need to rely on others to build you up, but rather you will know how to create your own confidence through your actions. No one will be able to tear you down, or build you up, because the true master of your life and your emotions is yourself.
You are the only person like you, and you are the only person with your unique set of abilities and skills. That alone should give you the confidence to know that you are incredible! You have amazing potential, and you need to do what it takes to believe in yourself, because if you don't believe in you, then nobody else will. Think about that as you continue on your journey to greater confidence, and I hope that you're able to have a major breakthrough using these principles!