7 Habits That Will Make People Like You
Something that most people want to learn is how they can become more generally liked by other people. I believe that there are a few simple habits that anyone can develop which will not only make them more popular among the people with whom they already associate, but will also attract incredible, like-minded people into their life. If you'll develop the following habits then I can guarantee that more people will like you, and more people will want to be around you.
1 - Be Accepting
Develop the habit of always being accepting of other people's world-views and opinions. Remember that they care about their own beliefs and values just as much as you do, and so it's only polite to accept them for who they are and what they believe. You don't have to agree with everyone, and you don't have to change your own beliefs, but if you would like other people to like you then you should learn to accept them for who they are. When other people feel accepted then they are far more likely to open their heart to you and share their true authentic self, and that's one of the most beautiful things that can happen in human relationships. Acceptance builds the connection, trust, and rapport.
2 - Offer Sincere Compliments
If you'll develop the habit of offering sincere and honest compliments then you'll almost immediately begin to build rapport with the people who you associate with. People love being complimented, and so do you, so always look for ways that you can try to build people up.
Having said this, there is a key word here; sincere. Make sure that the compliments that you give are completely sincere. Don't just compliment people to get them on your good side, because eventually they will feel like you're being fake, and they'll distance themselves.
My ultimate formula for a great compliment is this: sincerity + specificity + reasoning = a great compliment. Be sincere, be specific about what you like, and give a reason for why you like it. For example: "Hey Adam, that's a great tie! It really suits you." or "Hey Laura, great job today. I really appreciate how much work you put into that presentation."
3 - Express Gratitude
Gratitude is one of the most attractive attitudes that a person can have. If you will express honest gratitude for the people in your life then those people will love being around you. When was the last time that you thanked someone for just being themselves? When was the last time that you shared your gratitude for a person in your life? One of the greatest and most beautiful gifts that we have as human beings is the ability to cultivate lasting relationships that keep on giving. Think of all the joy that you have received out of the relationships in your life right now, and once you're done thinking about that you should go out and thank those people for being in your life.
4 - Give Warm Encouragement
People love to be encouraged, and they love to feel as though their dreams and desires are valued. Become the type of person who is always encouraging others to reach their full potential and to go after their dreams. Nobody likes to be around a person who tears people down and only ever thinks negatively, but everyone loves to be around a person who makes them feel like they can achieve anything. Become that person, and maybe one day someone will say "I achieved this because (insert your name) believed in me!"
5 - Be Interested
Develop a habit of always being interested in other people. Don't be a "me-monster", because the simple fact is that most people don't care about your achievements as much as you think they do, but everyone cares about their own achievements. If you ask about a person's life and achievements then they'll talk for as long as you are willing to listen, and if you listen, and are genuinely interested, then you'll build a great and lasting rapport with that person. Spend more time finding out about other people than you do talking about yourself and you'll have more friends than you know what to do with.
6 - Listen
Following on from habit number 5, it's one thing to ask questions and be interested, but it's another thing to actually listen. Listening is so important, because if you're listening then you care, and if you don't listen, then you don't care, and people can easily tell if you're listening or not. The problem is that most people in conversations are not actually listening, but rather they are thinking of what they want to say next. This is a selfish form of communication, and it's not one that builds lasting relationships. Listen with sincerity, understanding, and compassion, and the person in front of you will respect and admire you.
7 - Be Authentic
Finally, people are attracted to other people who are authentic. Wherever you are, and whoever you're with, be you. Give the people in your life the greatest and most valuable gift that you can give: yourself. There's only one of you, and if you're willing to share your true self with the people in your life then they'll thank you for doing so.
Not only are people attracted to authenticity, but they're repelled by people who are fake. Nobody likes to be around a person who is one way for some people and another way for others. Be yourself all the time, and the people who matter will love to be around you.
So I want you to remember that all of these points that I've spoken about are habits that can and should be developed. They're not a "one time fix". You should be consistent in your approach, and as you utilize all of these habits I believe that three things will happen in your life. First, the relationships that you currently have will be strengthened. Second, new and incredible people will come into your life simply because they love being around you. And third, you'll feel so much better about your relationships because you will know that you're adding a lot of value into peoples lives. If you think about it, these three outcomes are priceless, and so I hope that you start today with the next person who you meet.