Are You a Peacemaker or a Conflict-Artist?
One of the surest ways to become an influential person among your friends, family, and in society is to become a peacemaker, and the quickest way to alienate yourself from people is to become a conflict-artist. Let’s take a quick look into both of these types of people so that you can better understand yourself and the people around you.
Traits of the Peacemaker
The peacemaker is, as the name suggests, always looking for harmony in human relationships. She has her own opinions on everything but still respects the opinions of all other people and expects them to do the same. The peacemaker will do all she can to avoid conflict, and when there is a disagreement she will mediate so that the two parties can return to harmony. If people are not receptive to harmony she chooses to walk away or disengage herself with those people in stead of fighting back. Everybody loves to be around the peacemaker; she gives love and respect to everyone around her, and people feel like they can be themselves around her. She is an encouraging and supportive friend, and people are always happy to be in her presence because they feel amazing when she is around.
Traits of the Conflict-Artist
The conflict-artist is the complete opposite of the peacemaker. She is always engaged in some kind of drama or conflict in her life. If there is a possibility of an argument she will find it. She believes that she is always right and she is outspoken in her world views. If people disagree with her she will fight her point. She gets excited at the thought of a good argument, because she knows she’s good at it. She is not at all associated with harmony in human relationships, and although she may have great friends, she has a hard time keeping them. Drama brings excitement to her life, and so through some way or another she finds it.
Obviously not all conflict-artists are that dramatic and not all peacemakers are that harmonious, but we all lean more to one side of the spectrum. So now I ask you; are you more of a peacemaker or a conflict-artist?
Napoleon Hill, author of the best-selling book Think and Grow Rich, observed that “the man who inspires harmony in human relationships goes up: the man who stirs up friction goes down. The order is never reversed.” It is certainly true that we can only ever degrade ourselves and our potential for success if we lack the ability and drive to create harmony in our relationships. The peacemaker always wins. Think about some of the most famous and influential leaders who ever lived; people like Jesus, Gandhi, Martin Luther King Jr, and Abraham Lincoln. These were all people who worked towards a goal of harmony among humanity; also known as peacemakers.
Napoleon Hill also said that “the man who builds a house always gets more for his work than does the man who tears it down.” Ask yourself constantly: are you building people up or tearing them down? If you will always strive to build people up then you will never fail to find joy and success in your life. Become a peacemaker and constantly work towards perfect harmony; this is the only way to gain true fulfillment in your relationships and in your life.