Building Relationships Around Honesty and a Shared Vision
I want to write briefly about the kind of relationships that really get me excited about life. These are relationships that are built around trust, honesty, and a shared vision. When I look at the relationships in my life I can truly say that I feel most alive when I am around people who I know will tell me the truth about myself, and people who will go on a journey with me to a better life. When I am with some of my closest friends we could talk for hours about life-changing books, inspiring quotes, goals, visions, and personal progress. Personally, I find this kind of relationship to be the most invigorating.
Rick Warren said “God loves you unconditionally, but he loves you too much to let you stay this way.” This is one of the best descriptions of a true friend and partner in life. You should find those people in your life who love you just the way you are, but who would also tell you the honest truth about yourself, because those friends who tell you the truth are those who will take you to the next level. When you build any relationship out of trust, admiration, respect and love, it is easy to take criticism. When two friends or lovers can grow and learn together their relationship transcends the physical and emotional connection and rises to the heights of the spiritual realm.
Viktor Frankl said the following on love;
“Love is the only way to grasp another human being in the innermost core of his personality. No one can become fully aware of the very essence of another human being unless he loves him. By this love he is enabled to see the essential traits and features in the beloved person; and even more, he sees that which is potential in him, which is not yet actualized. Furthermore, by his love, the loving person enables the beloved person to actualize these potentialities by making him aware of what he can be and of what he should become, he makes these potentialities come true.”
This is one of my favorite definitions of love. Personally, the people who I love the most are those in whom I can see a great potential. Obviously this is not my only criteria for love, but these are the people who I want to associate with; people who will grow with me. If I find a person who is eager to learn, grow, and better his or her life, then I will immediately bond with that person, because that is who I want to be around, and I know that our friendship can be mutually inspiring and that we would work together with a shared vision of growth and personal development.
When you have a vision for the people you love they will gravitate towards you naturally. Your relationships will be incredibly meaningful If you can look at the beloved person in the eye and honestly say “I believe you have incredible potential, and I know you’re going to do great things.”
One of the traits of a great leader is his or her ability to see in others what they don’t see in themselves. Ralf Waldo Emerson said “Our chief want is someone who will inspire us to be what we know we could be.” I want to encourage you to be that person for the people who you love. See the potential in people and let them know what you see. Be honest with them about what you expect, and be the kind of friend or lover who brings out the best in people. If you can bring out the best in people you will seldom find trouble in your relationships.
Working on a shared vision is one of the greatest boosters of human relationships, and if you can do this while building trust, honesty, and admiration then you will surely find that you have begun your journey to the good life.