Complaining - The Poison of The Mind
Complaining is definitely the most common form of negativity within the minds of people, and it spreads very easily. Some people are so infected with negativity that they rarely utter words that aren't riddled with complaints. Anyone who seeks to live a more purposeful and joy-filled life must first separate themselves from complaints.
The person who cannot go through a whole day without complaining is incomplete indeed. A life of complaining is a life not lived, and so we must immediately take control and catch ourselves out every time we think of vocalizing complaints.
But all complaining is not bad. Of course if we didn't find problems or issues in our world then we would never make progress. Life is not perfect, and there are always things to find issue with, but let's discuss what would be considered to be a healthy complaint, and what is an unhealthy complaint.
An unhealthy complaint is when we discuss a negative person, or situation, or event without offering any solution or ideas as to how we might improve the issue. For example, you might say “I’m really sick of our clients paying us late!” This is the most negative form of complaint because there is literally no purpose to it. It serves only to advertise our negatively programmed mind and it leaves no one with a better understanding of people or the world. The only positive form of complaint would be to bring light to the issue, and then offer a solution that could possibly solve the said problem. Now you would say “I’m worried about people paying us late, so from now on I am going to make sure that our clients know that there is a $50 late-payment fee.” This is a positive form of complaint because it leads to action.
The great leaders who have changed the world were not negative in their approach. Quite the opposite; they found the problem and used their positive vision for the future to propel them into action and implementation. What if Martin Luther King Jr. had only complained about the inequality among race? Imagine how different the world would be if Henry Ford had chosen to only dream of an automobile, and never actually built it? These people had a few things in common. First, the positive view of the future, and second, a burning desire to implement their vision.
Those infected with negativity cannot see past their complaints of the present. They cannot summon the courage to implement their ideas, or even to suggest them to those who may have the power to do so.
The mark of the complainer is his lack of action in any form. Pay no attention to his guise, for it will only bring you harm. If a complaint is warranted then there is reason for action, but the mere act of talking about problems can never do the world any good.
It is important to note that our minds are attracted to what we focus on, and so if we are in a complaining frame of mind we are more likely to attract those things that we resent. The mind is an incredible thing, and it usually goes to work to bring to pass the things that we focus on. For example, if you are currently focusing on becoming a better employee, your mind will seek out opportunities to bring your goal to fruition. If you try to look for the beauty in the world, your mind will go to work to point out even more beauty every day. The downside is that if you are always focusing on what is wrong with the world and the people in it then your mind will seek opportunities to point out even more that is wrong, and so you become magnetized to negative events and people. Every time you complain you are essentially programming your mind to look for more things to complain about, and before long you will be stuck in a habit that is far easier to get into than to escape. Each complaint is like a drop of poison to your mind.
If ever you find that you are prone to constant complaining then you need to recognize that you are focusing too much on what’s wrong, and too little on what’s right. If you take the time to sit down and write a list of everything that is great and beautiful in your life then you will surely realize that you have a lot more to be grateful for than you realize. This sounds like a silly activity, but the benefits to your soul will be outstanding.
If you're a complainer, make this your first priority; stop focusing on what’s wrong and start being grateful for what is right. The second takeaway for you is this; complaints do nothing to help the situation; only action will solve the issues in your life. Be grateful, and take action. These are the two most important steps for the complainer to take if he wishes to free his mind from the grasp of negativity. By making consistent efforts to be grateful and take action on what you don't like you will soon find that your life is filling up with more beauty every day, and the problems that once seemed so dire are now being solved.